tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-500560489944433597.post2333121939076270644..comments2023-03-15T10:19:02.194-04:00Comments on Hovering at the Brink of Insanity: The Sissification of Our YouthMusing Mamahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/15867723816892526380noreply@blogger.comBlogger2125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-500560489944433597.post-57596633340322674862011-05-11T16:34:24.510-04:002011-05-11T16:34:24.510-04:00i thought maybe just raising my kids to be gentle,...i thought maybe just raising my kids to be gentle, forgiving, and kind would be enough. nope. too many little bastards out there whose parents figure when they conceived and birthed the child -- their job was done. <br /><br />i agree with damien -- thicker skin and a donkey punch to the junk of the offender ought to straighten things right out for kaili. yeah. i know. she can't *actually* punch people -- but it would be nice if anyone bullied got one free punch.<br /><br />and. seriously. if things don't improve i'm going to import my best friend's kids from MN to come kick major ass. or unleash the fury that is claire on someone...Musing Mamahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15867723816892526380noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-500560489944433597.post-91066711761913904892011-05-11T14:57:25.416-04:002011-05-11T14:57:25.416-04:00I LOVE this! You are so right! I’ve been spendin...I LOVE this! You are so right! I’ve been spending the last 8 years or so trying to be the “right” kind of mom, teaching my kids the “correct” way to be but I hadn’t even considered until Kaili got older that not all kids are being raised that way. <br /><br />When I told Damien about the incident, his first response was “she needs to get a thicker skin and just start just kicking people in the nuts.” Of course, the “right” mom inside of me was immediately irritated. Thicker skin? People shouldn’t be saying mean things to our baby! And we’re supposed to be teaching her coping skills, not how to inflict bodily damage. But then I thought about it and in a way, he’s right. He was the quiet, skinny, weird goth kid. It got other kids to leave him alone. When they insisted on messing with him anyway, he fought back…hard. He may not have won the fight, but he wasn’t going to back down or show people that they could mess with him. He survived rough neighborhoods with very few battle scars because he fought back. And that’s essentially what he wants our kids to learn. You don’t back down, you open your mouth, and kick someone in the nuts if you have to. (See why I married him? :-P) <br /><br />Kaili will be starting a martial arts class in June with an instructor who I’m told is phenomenal with girls specifically. I don’t want her to do this just so she can fight (although I think all kids need to know how to protect themselves) but I think it’ll give her more confidence in general. She loves to draw and to write and now does her own comic books while listening to her music, which is anything from Joan Jett to today’s pop music. I LOVE this about her and encourage her wonderful creative spirit all the time. But truth be told, she’s going to need more social interaction and the inner strength to know that she can handle herself, regardless of the situation. <br /><br />And, in a few of years, her brothers will just kick the ass of anyone who messes with her. I love the bond my kids have. Especially the little guy. He’s a 3 year old scrapper :-)Katiehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10239746121329519249noreply@blogger.com