Apr 23, 2012

I Love You Because...

I have heard people often wonder why Peter and I are together. Ours is a relationship that other people just don't understand, for a variety of meaningless "reasons".  Frankly, for the most part, I don't care that "they" don't understand -- it's not their relationship after all.  But I realized recently, this kind of questioning is hurtful to Peter (he's a sensitive type -- unlike me), and that's just not something I will tolerate.

So, to Peter...

  • I love you because you are kind to me. 
  • I love you because I don't have to worry about getting bloodied, bruised, or broken with you. 
  • I love that you were good to my mother, are good to my father, and are learning patience with my children, whom adore you. 
  • I love that you make me laugh with ridiculous interpretive song and dance. 
  • I love that you can finally admit you are defeated by Minute Rice.
  • I love you because you are trying
  • I love you because you treat me with respect.
  • I love you because I will never have to worry about you putting me down or insulting me in front of others.
  • I love you because you stick up for me -- even to my parents -- which could not have been easy.
  • I love you because it gave my mother comfort to know I was with you when she died.
  • I love you because you insist I am beautiful, even though I don't feel like I am, or ever have been.
  • I love you because you knew exactly the right time to throw a hissy fit.
  • I love you because you let me know it was okay to not be strong all the time.  And that I can trust you with my weaknesses.
Those are just some of the reasons. There are many others. They are private.

To "them"...

I don't care what kind of car Peter drives, or how much money he makes.  Those are not the things that are important. Neither are fashion choices or looks.  I happen to think Peter is beautiful.  Beauty, to me, is who you are, not just what you look like.  I know a lot of people who are very pretty on the outside, and very ugly on the inside.  I care about what's on the inside a whole helluva lot more.

To me, Peter is rich in all the things that matter.  How lucky am I?


  1. I think you guys are an adorable couple, inside AND out. :) I don't know who "they" are... but "they" are probably just jealous because their relationship isn't as awesome as yours is. I haven't spent much time with you guys lately, but I know when I did I loved the fact that you guys are always laughing together. That's all that matters.

    1. Awww. Thanks Jen. One of our favorite quotes is "Anyone can be passionate, but it takes real lovers to be silly." We are silly.

  2. "They" suck! You are happy...end of story. And quite frankly, what someone else thinks of you is none of your business (love Rupaul for that line and I repeat it to myself often). I learned a long time ago that as long as I'm happy, everyone else can kiss my white Irish. :-P I personally think you two seem perfect.

    1. To be fair... it hasn't only been bitter, angry, ex "theys"... there have been a lot of regular "theys" that ask in this befuddled tone, "you and peter? really??" which, honestly, is kind of insulting. why not me and peter? who makes this combo icky, me or peter? but i've blown it off because what "they" don't understand isn't my problem. i didn't realize that peter found it upsetting and offensive.

      LOVE the Rupaul quote -- must start using that.

      My takeover of your food thread is my next topic... FYI. You inspired me!

  3. VERY Lucky!! Don't let the haters get you down, if I did that I would of died a long time ago..shortly after my husband! Basically because people can just be A$$ES at times and don't know what Grief is!!